Regulating Emotions
“Maybe we all have darkness inside of us and some of us are better at dealing with it than others.”
― Jasmine Warga, My Heart and Other Black Holes
― Jasmine Warga, My Heart and Other Black Holes
A listing of resources, therapists, doctors and clinics that provide therapy is provided below. No endorsements or recommendations are intended. This listing is for informational purposes only. It is up to you to determine appropriate professional care.
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Anna Runkle, aka Crappy Childhood Fairy, talks about how growing up in an abusive home led to emotional dysregulation. Anna teaches how you can learn to regulate your brain and your emotions thought a simple daily practice of grounding and writing. Childhood abuse or neglect doesn't have to define you, and Anna will show you how.
Check out Anna's channel here: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCCZl... Anna's free course, The Daily Practice is here: http://bit.ly/3608opl Anna's website: https://crappychildhoodfairy.com |
You aren't at the Mercy of your Emotions Despite What you Believe...
Many times, emotions are portrayed as something bad. But are they really? Or do our emotions just reflect the way in which we perceive our reality? You could take several people and expose them to the same situation, yet they may not all react in the same way. One person may become depressed and withdraw, another may become angry and blame the world or their surroundings for their misfortune, and yet another may be inspired to make a positive change in the world as a result of what happened to them.
Most of us base our decisions or actions on our past. If our past was pleasant and happy, we would most likely believe we can do anything and would proceed in life pursuing our hopes and dreams.But for those of us who have experienced sadness or traumatic events, we may not believe we are capable of moving forward or making positive changes in our lives. We may fear the future or fear that our past will repeat itself.
The first step to making positive changes in our lives comes with recognizing what emotions we are feeling. We must learn to control our emotions. We must make peace with our past, we must take responsibility for the things that have happened, we must be humble and willing to listen to another person's perspective. In many cases, this includes family members we may have strained relationships with. We need to control how we react to what we say to others with conscious thought instead of reacting without thinking. Only by doing this can we move forward. This is one of the most important things we can learn when trying to be sober. It is also crucial for family members to learn as well. Controlling your emotions and outbursts, as well as setting boundaries with your child, are critical to preserving what remains of your relationship with them.
Most of us base our decisions or actions on our past. If our past was pleasant and happy, we would most likely believe we can do anything and would proceed in life pursuing our hopes and dreams.But for those of us who have experienced sadness or traumatic events, we may not believe we are capable of moving forward or making positive changes in our lives. We may fear the future or fear that our past will repeat itself.
The first step to making positive changes in our lives comes with recognizing what emotions we are feeling. We must learn to control our emotions. We must make peace with our past, we must take responsibility for the things that have happened, we must be humble and willing to listen to another person's perspective. In many cases, this includes family members we may have strained relationships with. We need to control how we react to what we say to others with conscious thought instead of reacting without thinking. Only by doing this can we move forward. This is one of the most important things we can learn when trying to be sober. It is also crucial for family members to learn as well. Controlling your emotions and outbursts, as well as setting boundaries with your child, are critical to preserving what remains of your relationship with them.
Videos About The Dangers of Letting Emotions Rule Your Life
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What are the most dangerous emotions that potentially threaten your recovery? Holistic recovery coach, Mary Von Ohlen, explains each of the emotions that can be dangerous in sobriety and why. Find out what emotions to watch for, and how to deal with difficult feelings in any stage of addiction recovery. |
(Video is about 19 minutes)
Psychologist Lisa Feldman Barrett has spent 25 years trying to understand what emotions really are. She explains how we may have more control over our emotions than we think. Does everyone experience happiness, sadness and anxiety the same way? |
Learn to Create Boundaries and Stand up for Yourself
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Are you afraid to speak your mind or ask for what you want because you are afraid to be pushy or bossy? Are you afraid of making people mad or afraid they won't want to be with you anymore? Then this video is for you. |
(Video is around 11 minutes)
Learn to be assertive in this 11 minute video and create boundaries for yourself....or you will continue to attract people that want to tear you down and control you. |
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(Video is about 10 minutes)
One of the things that we need to do if we're going to live bold, courageous lives is to be willing to confront the things that we need to confront. Now, none of us love confrontation and Joyce has a few things that she wants to remind you about to help you. |
(Video is about 25 minutes.)
Learn that your worth and value is not in what you do for work or what your education is. Don't base your value on how people treat you. Learn to be secure even if you have to fake it at first. |
Calming Down a Conversation
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(Video is about 8 minutes)
There is no quick or simple solution to handling escalating situations, but there are things we should keep in mind as we develop strategies to respond. |
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In our life, we have to deal with angry people. And dealing with an angry person is challenging. So in this episode, I'll show you how to calm down an angry person. |
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(This video is around 5 minutes)
Discusses what emotional regulation is and how exercising it can help from a cognitive skills perspective. |
(Around 8 minutes)
It can be very difficult to know how to respond to someone who is escalated and targeting us. In this video, they talk about what to avoid, what you should do, and how you can prepare for these situations ahead of time. |
